So many people come in and out of our lives on a day to day basis. Some we gel with very quickly while others seem take a long while for us to form some kind of relationship with. And then there are those we just can’t connect with on any level for whatever reason. Of all of the folks we interact with, they’re all meant to cross our paths for one reason or another. Only God knows why. Some stay with you for a lifetime while others are just visiting for a fleeting moment.
If it was a hard relationship to foster, very energy draining or difficult, maybe they were placed in your path to strengthen you. To give you a backbone. If it was a professional relationship, perhaps they were placed in your life for networking or promotional purposes. If it was a romantic relationship, maybe they were put in your path to show you what and how much you should put up with or give of yourself. . . or show you that you’re worthy to be loved and give love. Or maybe they were placed in your life for their good and not yours. Only God knows His purpose.
Someone once told me that counterfeits are sent to be in our lives before God sends the right someones or possibilities He has chosen for us. The thing is that it is so hard to discern between a false friend, lover, coworker or opportunity. Its sorta like trial and error if you ask me. You have to just go with it and hope you’re making the right life choices. Unfortunately, years may pass before the true intentions of the folks that were placed in your life comes to light. But trust and have faith. Whatever is done in the dark with surely come to light.
So what do you do in this case? You’ve spent years and years in a certain situation that was possibly detrimental to your physical and emotional well being. Your financial and mental health were challenged, or it has come to light that you were wronged and didn’t even know it. You thought they had your back as you KNOW you had theirs. You gave your all to that job or that relationship. So what do you do now? You’re older but wiser. You haven’t made any new connections or friends and potential mates aren’t knocking at your front door. You don’t have any new career opportunities presenting themselves to you. What now?
Bask in it. Lay out like you’re on the beach getting a tan with no concern about skin cancer. Feel the sunshine on your face. Revel in your newfound freedom. Fall in love with yourself. Date yourself. Do things you couldn’t do before or had stopped doing for yourself because your energy was drained. Recognize that though it hurts like hell and you’re scared like hell and it will be tough to move on and you may be lonely and bored out of your mind and your money may not be right . . . you just made space for the next great thing to enter into your life. A God sent thing.
So out with the old and in with something totally new and right. That’s exactly what’s going to happen. And trust me, they won’t be a counterfeit.
